How to be happy

The basics of happiness

What is it really to be happy and how can someone become happier and if you felt like happiness dissappeared, how do you become happy again?

First let us start out with a definition from

adjective, hap·pi·er, hap·pi·est.

  1. delighted, pleased, or glad, as over a particular thing:to be happy to see a person.
  2. characterized by or indicative of pleasure, contentment, or joy:a happy mood; a happy frame of mind.
  3. favored by fortune; fortunate or lucky:a happy, fruitful land.See Synonym Study at fortunate.

To be happy is a state of your mind that happens in this moment and it is closely related to being great full. The thing is that happiness is a state that is present right now and can not be anticipated.

My mom have had cancer and earlier this week she was awaiting the results of even more tests, the hospital made the agreement that they would call her the day they had the answer to the tests and if the suspicious spot was confirmed more cancer. I was ready to go as soon as the hospital called her and take her to the hospital whenever needed.

Hospital called and there was no reason to come, the spot was not cancer or dangerous in any way. The happiness she felt was just out of this world, the feeling of getting life back and have any reason to plan a trip to her daughter in Texas (we live in Norway) filled her with energy. No planning or guessing could create this happiness since the worry of an oposite answer from the hospital would alway be present in forecasting the result.

People suck at planning and rarely do the plan turn out in any way it should and this also goes for trying to feel happy for something in the future. The true happiness happens right now in this second, and it starts with being great full for what you have. However, in order to become happy there has to be balance in some areas of life that will give us the good feeling.


In life you will need:

1. Happiness coming from supporting outer life of those around you

2. Happiness developed when you are grateful and experience yourself within a meaningful community

3. Happiness that exists in your own separate creative inner life

4. Happiness that exists from outer life as an individual achieving results

They all need to be a part of your life in order for you to understand what happiness really is.

If you miss one or more of the ways to be happy then make it a goal to change it!! Become a member in a new community, make painting, dare to talk to a stranger.

Think about your own life and pick out one part that may not be fulfilled in your life. My own missing area will be number 2 and 3 since my habit usually turns into helping others and this makes me feel happy, however when I need the support is it not there since I did not care enough about to stay in a uplifting community. I need to work on 2 and 3, what would be your response to it?



Wayne Dyer:

Most People are searching for happiness. They’re looking for it. They’re trying to find it in someone or something outside of themselves. That’s a fundamental mistake. Happiness is something that you are, and it comes from the way you think.


One of the simplest ways to be happy is to let go of what makes you sad.

Dr. Steve Maraboli

Happiness is found in the simplest of things

Happiness is found in great fullness,

in a kept promise

in a great conversation

in friendship

in achieved goals

in a fond memory

In all the simple magnificence of life

John Lennon:

When I was 5 years old my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school they asked me of what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down “happy”. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life”

Woody Allen:

The talent of being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don’t have

Please understand that being happy is a choice and habit!!

Choose to help those around you

Choose to be around people who will add value and energy to your life

Choose to let your creativity express itself.

Choose to set a dream and goals that you can work on and get the happy feeling of achieving.

The simplest thing can change your experience of something, what would be the case if you didn’t have air to breathe? How about being great full to the nature producing your life bringing oxygen?

When someone hands you a birthday present that you don’t like then be great full for having someone that thinks of you and spend time and money to make you happy. If a present in ugly then don’t blame the giver, the giver most likely did not make it anyway.

So how to be happy is not that hard however there may be habits and old ways to live you need to change. Be great full for what you have and who you are right now!! Be great full since you will be able to change what needs to be changed !!


Start right now with writing down 10 things you are great full for, 3 people you admire and forgive yourself for 2 things in the past that does not make sense to drag along in life. Then go outside and listen to the sounds, smell the air and the life itself that goes on around you, that you more than likely never pay attention to. Happiness is a product of gratitude of what you have, acheive and what life itself brings along for you to enjoy. 



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