- Make someone happy
- Make more money
- Learn a new task
- Dream about my future
- Live my own life
- Go for what really matters in life
- Meet my old drinking buddies
- Have an afternoon with Red Wine and a good meal with my friends
- Change my life in the direction that makes me more happy
- Spend time with my kids
- Fight for my right to see my kids
- AND MANY MORE FEELINGS!!
I believe that one of more of the remarks above do hit home with most people that reads this blog, not because of the question however there are just too many people that have those feelings without asking themselves if it is a way out of it.
WHAT YOU SHOULD QUIT
First we all need to add a dose of reality since life and situations change all the time and at a very high speed, however the question that remains should be if it really is necessary to hang on to all the changes. My former girlfriend tried to be doctor, gardener, entrepreneur, interior planner, facebook expert, family advisor and a lot more and to say the least, nothing was done in a great way. Google is the best tool in the world to find knowledge and I admire all the work that search engines do for us, but remember you will always get the result that fits your own thinking the best.
If you believe that cucumber will cure cancer then great!! Just do not type in “how do cucumber save cancer” and go with everything it says and drop going to the doctor. The reason is simply that more than likely can a doctor with his connections and team (I know there are good options, however this is where the baseline of a treatment stars) will do a better job than yourself with cucumber. So how about letting the doctor take care of the illness and you keep working on your dream? If you make it through then it will be a very good reason to celebrate the fact that your dream has advanced and lives on and you can keep on working on it.
The reason why you should quit to do a lot of the things you are doing is simply that someone else will help you faster, cheaper if you ask than you could ever do yourself.
How many guys didn’t buy drills, screws, wood, hardware and spent a ton of time making a fence when it would cost exactly the same if they just traded the drill and hardware for paying someone for the labour of making the fence.
So sometimes you should quit what you are doing and rather exchange the time spent with spending more time with what you want.
REASON AND PRIORITY
One of your subconscious senses is to reason and don’t forget this part. Ask yourself the reason for why you are doing some things in life and most will not make sense. I do have a personal coach and the last time we had a session we talked about how I spend my time. We concluded that if I keep educating myself in the present rate it will take about 4 years to get the job done. If the rate is increased slightly it will take about 2 years and the last 2 years I will make money on it. That makes a lot more sense!!
I would advise you to make a list of all the things you do and when you feel the list is complete then put a number next to them with priority. Put the top 4 items on a sheet of paper and hide the other one in a place where it is not easy to spot. The top 4 list will help you gain some focus.
Your brain will now start working much like a real life google and look for ways to work on this top list and your “job” will be to look into the answers that show up in your mind. The trick is to search for people with the knowledge you need and someone who actually have done it before you, find some books that will help you on the topics and start making small goals i.e “call a personal trainer” if you have a fitness goal or “talk to a bar owner” if you would like to start a bar.
My top 2 on the list is to 1. Get a better house for my kids and 2. Get a new career (coaching). This does not cancel the fact that my lawn has to get mowed (wich is probably number 15 on the list), it simply states that instead of doing the lawn every 5 days it can be done every 10 while I get my career going. If I spend 1 more hour a day on my career and my kids has to play on their own then fine, I do not have to quit playing with the kids but just do it smarter. And then you will quit doing some things completely, but they didn’t add any value to your life anyhow.
One of my real problems is the fact that I do not quit soon enough and stay with tasks that has now value. I used to say “I am not a quitter, I just don’t know how to work on the right topics”. And this is very true. Make sure you know your values in life and work on finding out why you are here!!! There has to be a better reason for you to be on this earth than to just be born, live how everyone else expect you to and then die.
A lot of people (me included) tends to stick with the same work, hobby or interest simply because they do not want to loose friends and support. The fact is that if something in life changes then you will find support for it, not likely to be the same people and places than before but there will be more friends and support.
With some research and new knowledge you will start to support yourself!! And this is very cool. When you change the world change with you, find your favourite dream and go on Facebook and make a search for a group made for it. More than likely you will find someone else in the world that will work with you in winning your dream!! You may find yourself alone in making your choices, but someone made them before you and will help. And if no one made them before you, patent it and sell it!! Should you stumble upon some idea the world needs and has not been covered then quit a lot of what you are doing and go for it.
SO WHY SHOULD YOU QUIT?
Highly personal question, however the baseline is that somehow you decided to do it. It may not have been something you really gave a lot of thought to and really gave you a benefit.
- Not enough support
- Someone talked you into something else
- You became a parent
- Someone else did it better
- You decided before even trying that it would not work out for you
Just add to the list what fits your reasons for not living your own life, but at some point you most likely found someone elses opinion to be worth more than your own. And made a choice. Dan Lok puts it rather perfect, “you don’t need more money, you need a better strategy”. Try to replace the obstacle with a strategy and see what happens……
STOP GIVING UP ON YOURSELF
It is fine to give up on almost anything in life because it will be traded into something else more or less valuable. I have always said the phrase “regardless of where you are and what the circumstances I will spend my time on something”. Do you watch TV just because it is on, your partner likes the show, the weather is not perfect or any other excuse. Watch the shows that add value to your life and skip the rest!! If you like working out then Ninja Warrior may be of interest, but if you would like to work on how to build a piece of furniture then it will not bring you any closer to the goal. Sometimes you will have to compromize in order to make relationships work however do not make other peoples habbits your own if it makes you give up on your own values and future goals.
Go and read a book somewhere when the TV is on no value, if you find a book being the wrong kind then swap it with a different one. However needs to work through a boring chapter in a book in order to get a complete understanding and value out of it. An obstacle on the way to your goal is just a way of life to make you better in working through resistance.
But you have to find your values!!!
This will be the most important guide in stoping the habbit to quit on the wrong things. Your life, your ideas, your cost, your choice, your victory, your success, your failure, your increased knowledge, your old age. Don’t regret them! Go for your own values!!
WHERE DO I FIND MY VALUES
Or rather, how do I find my values.
This is the first mistake most people do in the search for themselves. Your values are already in your DNA, blood, mind and soul. Look inside yourself and relax, then go out in the real world and look at the ideas that you found in yourself. This homepage is created simply due to the fact that my very best value is to help others get a better life, and this homepage is (as you guessed:-)) for people of all cultures and corners of the world. I have even worked with many types of animals (horses, cows, dogs, cats etc) and even then I get the most value out of seeing the increase in life they obtain with me.
Right now I have no clue regarding who you are. Some truck drivers loves to deliver a load of lumber to a new house and would never trade it for anything just like some doctors finds the most value in doing brain surgery and change lives in their own way. What your value is and when you will discover it can not be decided but when you find it you will know. When you know it, dare to act on it, when you act on it don’t stop progressing. Sometimes the progress may slow down or take an unexpected turn, however with your value backing you up it will be close to impossible to quit!!
Go somewhere quiet where no one is watching or disturbing, do this multiple times and write down the ideas you get for what gives you value and the feeling of being “home” in yourself. You will at some point find the reason for you being here, what your values are and why you do what you do. It will help you help others in some way to get better and acheive more. Just sit down and let it come to you, just like a scared horse will slowly start to trust you and eventually smell your face and become a life long friend, so shall your values start to trust you.
There is a true statement: “You have the right do anything at any time or anywhere, as long as you don’t violate the rights of others”.
We are all individuals and the final anwer will differ with the values, however the best answer to give you would be to know yourself and your values. Get a few books or ebooks on the topic and start expanding your mind, invest in yourself!!
I do prefer buying a book rather than just doing online research and the reason is that in the beginning, it will be very tempting to click on a add or search for a better answer. When you start a book then make up your mind to finish it, within a book you will not find ads or something flashing to destroy your focus. This gives you the complete picture!! If you didn’t like the book then read it once and give it away to someone, if you liked it then read it again with a pen and paper ready to make notes and remarks in the book.
But you most likely quit because what you are doing does not match your values without you really knowing it. If one of your top values are to provide for the kids, then you will find ways to do this or any other topic. And when you find your purpose it will show you how to fullfill your life and create someting more than yourself since you can not fullfill yourself without help of others.
Another great investment in yourself should include some kind of personal and continuing assistance, and you may find help in this review of Bob Proctor and his team.
So you should quit spending any major time of your life on things that do not matter, this keeps you going and gives you time to spend on what you desire.
Sounds easy, but it will take effort!!